Almost two weeks since I wrote a post here and I realised that with a start this morning. How did I let that happen? I love blogging!
But yes, I’ve been busy. No, I don’t mean that in the generic, off-hand way we usually say it. I really have been busy- attending conferences, work deadlines, the kid’s major academic tests and a few domestic concerns plus a short, pleasant getaway last weekend. So, I suppose it’s acceptable to take a break once in a while.
But something’s brewing. A couple of things are, actually but nope, I’m not telling you what they are, just yet. You’ll have to wait a while, maybe a couple of days or longer, to find out.
The more important question I have for you, though, is one I ask myself periodically:
Are you open to change?
There’s a reason I ask this and it’s important that you reflect on this before you answer. Change is terrifying, let’s not kid ourselves. We very rarely take the plunge into something that’s both exciting and daunting and while that’s mostly sensible, there are times when it isn’t.
Why? Not changing at all would mean that you are comfortable being stagnant. Now that’s a rough place to be in. It’s cozy, warm and fuzzy but it’s not letting you grow.
Take the example of public speaking. Now apparently, that’s the #1 fear in the world, bigger than the fear of death! I’ve not had stage fright, even as a child, but I know what it’s like to feel nervous before trying something new. So how do you overcome and even embrace this change?
Take baby steps
You begin by trying something small, in the same league or domain. So perhaps speak to a small audience, even an audience of one person, for example. Slowly, you build up the courage to try larger groups.
Ask for help
Have a friend who will help you through the fear? Rope him in. Ask that he support you and stick by you when you find that your courage falters. Make sure he’s on speed dial, if necessary.
Ask for feedback
I’ve seen a lot of posts recently. Some of them sneer at the idea of criticism, ask that you shut yourself away from the critics and let yourself work your own path. This is a tricky slope, to be honest.
How will you ever grow if you don’t hear honest feedback? While I can understand being turned off by hurtful or mean comments, it may make sense to rope in someone else to confirm if the criticism is really harsh or if there’s a grain of truth in there, somewhere. Perhaps we can then work on it and aim to better ourselves.
So, I ask you again:
Are you the kind who will embrace change?