In May 2018, I completed 4 years of this blog. And while the feeling was incredible and exuberant at the time, it occurred to me that I wasn’t doing enough justice to this space.

It’s a place I love, dearly. It’s a place where I can be completely me and myself. It is the one safe haven (if that is even possible on the internet) where I don’t worry about what people say about me or what I write.

This is also because I don’t do as much as I should to promote the content here. I leave that to the ones who choose to read me.

But, as I get ready for a big step next week in the blogging space, I am tempted to consider shutting this space down. For one thing, keeping this place running costs money. Hosting costs, domain costs etc, which will need to be renewed before the year ends.

At the same time, I am torn and want to keep this place going for the days when I just want to write without thinking too hard about it. I could do that on Medium, where I have a place, but it doesn’t feel quite the same. I feel guilty, like I’ve neglected this second child of mine, in favour of my first blog. 

At this point, I haven’t really made a decision, to be honest. This is more of a ‘Should I or shouldn’t I?’ post. I have a couple of months before I need to make that decision, so let’s see where Fate takes me and leads me by the hand.

The writer in me screams at the thought of shutting this down. The pragmatist puts a hand on my shoulder and asks me to face reality. Whom will I listen to?

It’s anybody’s guess.


21 thoughts on “Is it time for Goodbye?

  1. No, no, no, that’s it, I said it.

    How can you even think of shutting this place down? Do you know how many people you have inspired here?

    I’m not a parent and yet as much as I enjoy your parenting blog, this space has taught me so much about life and everything else in general.

    Take some time off, but do come back once in a while and post something here. Make it your second priority, but do keep it alive.

  2. I came here looking for another post and found this one.
    No, I cannot imagine not having The Diary of a Doting Mom around except if you are making it into a book. Similar to what Kiran Manral did for her original blog. 🙂
    Or maybe leave it with a custom domain name on free WordPress.
    All the best for decision,what ever you choose. I will miss it since your other site is good but this is where you are, where I found you.
    Difficult choices & decisions – all the best.
    Hugs dear Shailaja.

  3. I had a similar dilemma about this before I moved to self hosted WP. But realized it is worth in the long term. I am sure we will be with you wherever you write.

  4. I read your post in the morning and went away because this is something that needs a good think. While I do understand why you would want to move away, I would be very very sad to see this place go. Is there some way you can merge the two blogs? Maybe have a writing section in your parenting blog? That’s something I’ve been thinking about too but I’m not even sure that is possible. It would be a shame to let all your wonderful pieces here go. Don’t do that. This is where you discovered your creative writing, isn’t it?

    1. You’re the best, you know? Very few people mentioned how sad they’d be to see this place go and for me, that means so much more than the practical tips offered about actually moving the blog. To be honest, that’s what I was hoping to hear. That people cared. And that they would be Frank enough to express it too. And you’re right. This is where I discovered myself as a writer. I don’t want it to go. Not one bit. And maybe when the time comes I won’t do it after all. Maybe I’ll make enough from the other blog to cover the costs of this one too. Well , one can hope. But thank you Tulika. Thank you so much for being warm, kind, empathetic and gentle. That means the world to me.

  5. I can relate to your dilemma. This is one of the reasons I haven’t yet moved to self-hosted WP. The hosting costs might prove to be a deterrent in pursuing blogging only as a hobby.

    Although I sure can think of several other hobbies that are much more expensive. So I don’t see why we can’t/shouldn’t pay to keep our hobby blog the way we want to, if we can afford it.

    Either way, I vote for custom domain on It will be slightly more expensive than custom domain on blogger, but it will be too messy now to switch to blogger. Besides, you’re probably accustomed to the WP dashboard.

    As for the annual domain & redirecting costs… I’m sure we spend way more than that every month on just junk food!

    Bottomline: If it makes us happy and we can afford it, then WHY NOT?

    1. Thanks Chicky. I doubt I spend more than that on junk food, of course. But that’s just me. 🙂

      I do get your point. I may move to custom domain on WP and pay for that instead.

  6. Not being a parent, I do love this space of yours a lot more and will miss it if you shut it down but will also understand you have to go where your heart takes you. Good luck with whatever you decide! 🙂

  7. I would agree with the suggestions given by Shantala. Those are the exact things that came to my mind. For now, you can revert this one back to You can create a section on your other blog on Writing or Flash Fiction. But see if that has any real benefits to you otherwise continue to write as and when you like on this blog.

    Shutting it down is not an option. Why lose all the posts you’ve written? Those are my two paise.

  8. I started following you through this blog, Shailaja. So shutting down this space would break my heart. But then it’s your space, your writings, your decision. What’s your thought about reverting back to free WordPress instead of continuing with self-hosted? I always loved reading your flash fictions. I’m sure you will come up with a solution that you can be at peace with. <3

    1. Aww thanks Vinitha. Yes, reverting to free WordPress is definitely one of the options. Shall explore it in detail. Maybe I can keep the domain name and move to custom domain instead of self-hosted. That will at least reduce the costs somewhat.

  9. I can completely relate with the struggle. This is a tough one indeed.

    You could possibly (in the future, whenever you are comfortable) start a writing section/category on that blog. Because I feel like it will fit in. As it is, that blog does have multiple areas of focus. No reason why writing cannot be added. So long as you integrate it organically.

    You could also possibly transfer this blog to blogger or free wordpress. So that you do not have any costs to bear. That is if medium doesn’t serve the purpose this one does.

    1. Yes the former is what I am thinking of. Especially if I want to have an author section or something. But I don’t want to lose the content on this blog either. So maybe I’ll move it back to free WordPress.

  10. Decisions such as this are hard to make, but, you gotta do what you gotta do! Right, Shy? Whatever you decide for this baby of yours, wishing you the best and also wishing you peace and happiness in your new venture! <3

    1. Thank you, Shilpa. I know. I don’t want to shut this down but at the same time I don’t want to keep it going for the sake of it, you know? Somehow that feels like I am forcing myself. In time, I figure I could add a section to my other blog which relates to my writing and my books (if they ever happen). Sigh, I don’t know.

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