If you are a blogger, you’re probably doing this as a side job, a hobby or a full-time way to earn an income. In my case, I’ve transitioned from a hobby to a side job to a full-time one, so I know what it’s like in all three scenarios. I’ve been particularly and conspicuously absent from the blog-hopping scene for the last couple of months. A few people noticed and asked.
As you may be aware, this is my second blog. This is the space where my creative self can walk free, blog freely without any sort of expectations whatsoever. Neither post likes nor comments nor page views or shares make a dent in my writing. You could say that this is my actual online diary, which very few people read. And I am okay with that.
Why have I cut back on visiting other blogs, you ask? For a number of reasons. The most important of them being that I’ve transitioned to a space where I’m very conscious of the time I spend online these days. Ever since I began to treat my other blog as a full-time job, I’ve begun to keep regular work hours.
Working from home means that we have the advantage of working whenever we want.
Working from home also means that we have the disadvantage of working even when we shouldn’t.
Get the difference?
Time is a funny thing. It stretches and becomes elastic and accommodating, if we are willing. It can also become restrictive if we try to pack too much into a single day.
So now, everything related to the main blog happens between 9 AM and 5 PM. This includes writing posts, making graphics for them, creating a social media promotion strategy and executing it, speaking to clients, working on their content and lots more admin work that I won’t bore you with, honestly.
After 5 PM I try and switch off from all things work/blog-related. And this is a strange thing for me, because I used to be the kind who would use the evenings and late nights to catch up on blog hopping. I don’t anymore.
I do miss reading other blogs the way I used to. I am deeply grateful for the community that has helped bring me to where I am today. And it would be remiss if I didn’t try and return the favour every now and then.
But, time has become a precious commodity now. My daughter is almost a teen, which means that she spends lesser time sitting by my side. So the moments that she does are so rare and beautiful that I don’t want to lose sight of them.
Similarly, my reading offline took a big hit over the last 4 years. Reading only blogs made my attention span plummet and didn’t let me take up anything more than 2 pages in length. Until I decided to bring the focus back to deep reading.
Being very active on my personal social media channels was fabulous because it made me create lovely connections, but it came at a heavy price. I was more present online than I was offline.
Which is why when I took the decision to convert my blog to a business earlier this year, it became apparent that I’d have to make other changes too.
My time online had to be reduced.
So if I haven’t visited your blog recently or engaged with you on your tweets, Facebook posts and status updates, it’s not because of something you did. You still mean a lot to me, as much as you did when we first connected with one another.
In fact if you reach out to me today, even if we haven’t contacted each other or visited each other’s blogs in the last 6 months or even a year, I would pick up from where we left off. Life is too short to hold grudges or blame other people for our shortcomings and misfortunes.
It’s also a fact that relationships thrive when they are nurtured. But do you realise, that as bloggers, we have too many relationships? Too many blogs that we follow? It’s not physically possible to be wholly invested in every blogger you’ve ever connected with and it would be harmful for you to attempt that.
So remember, it’s not you.
This is just me, being more mindful and making time for life. And I hope that, with age, I’ve grown wiser, let go of more expectations and become more accepting of people and circumstances for who they are.