In a closed blogging group, I was asked what is the one thing that puts me off about blogging? Well, honestly, there’s more than one thing, but the top of the list happens to be shaming of other people.
I’ve never really subscribed to the ‘name and shame’ model of setting things right. It’s never productive, doesn’t come from the right intentions and hurts more people than I care to count. Yet, it’s one of the few things that seems fairly rampant in blogging circles today. A blogger has a misunderstanding with a fellow blogger and the easiest thing to do seems to be to take to the blog to air his/her views on the person. The vitriol in such posts is frankly alarming and rather disturbing.
The only thing which seems marginally worse than airing your views on a specific individual is doing the same thing without naming the person. That just raises all sorts of doubts and the question: Wait, is it me that’s being spoken about?
Of course I’ve had my share of unpleasantness or dissonance of opinion. In fact, I have been the target of such posts too. It’s normal, even healthy, to have disagreements. If I have a beef with someone, reaching out to them directly by e-mail, text or a phone call is my way of sorting things out.
The one time I took to the blog to air my anger, it left me with a very bad taste and I took the post down a day after it was published.
I get that you’re angry, injured, completely put off by a person’s behaviour, but should you let that go up on permanent record on your blog or even your social media presence?
What do you feel?
Do you think confrontation in private is better?
Would you take to your blog to rant about someone?