Fear of rejection holds us back more than we know. It’s the ominous voice in our head that tells us we aren’t good enough. It’s the crushing weight of self-doubt that prevents us from moving forward.
I know. I’ve been there.
In May this year, I made up my mind that I’d start sending my written work to publications, e-zines, blogging platforms and consciously work past the idea that rejection was bad.
Deciding to pitch published posts first seemed like a good idea so I began there. Looking at my work, I worked through the pieces and found the ones that I thought had resonated the most with me while I’d written them as well as the ones that had touched a chord with readers.
On the 23rd of May, a day before my blog turned two, I was excited to be featured on the BlogHer home page. Soon after, I was flabbergasted to see that WordPress Discover had featured me. Blog Adda reached out to have me speak on depression and mental health.
Earlier this week, I pitched a piece to The Huffington Post. It was a parenting post I’d written a couple of months ago on my blog. Half a day, I went back and forth, chewing my lip, wondering if I should even do this. All kinds of doubts plagued me:
- What if it isn’t good enough?
- What if I never hear back?
- What if the blow to my self-confidence is so bad that I will never feel like writing another piece, ever again?
The friend I’d reached out to assured me that this was the right thing to do. ‘I believe in your writing’, she said. After drafting the e-mail and some nail biting, my fingers nervously hit ‘send’. Almost on instinct, I shut the laptop and walked away after that.
That was at 6:15 p.m.
It was anyway time for me to prep dinner, finish up a few chores, get the kid to bed and wind up for the night. I logged in after 9 p.m. to glance once at all my social media updates and casually clicked on the e-mail icon.
That’s when I saw it.
8:26 p.m. Arianna Huffington had replied to my e-mail.
Nearly dropping my phone, I stood there, eyes widening in shock. Wait, what? Arianna Huffington had replied? What did she think? Oh god, it was so bad that she was turning it down. I knew it!
Fingers shaking, I opened the e-mail and was overwhelmed to see that she’d loved the post and would be happy to feature my voice on Huffington Post. An editor would get in touch shortly, she concluded.
Excitement coursing through every fibre, I immediately dialled my husband and told him the news. Soon after, I went to bed, my heart basking in the glow of absolute joy.
The next morning I was thrilled to note that I’d now been added to their author platform and could start submitting and publishing my posts right away! With that, my first ever post on the global platform of Huffington Post is now live:
A special joy enveloped me as I saw this staring back at me from the web page.
The new platform allows you to share your posts immediately through your social media channels. I did very tentatively and was beyond amazed to note that in a day, it had crossed 600 likes on Facebook. This is also largely due to my incredible friends, family and fellow bloggers who generously shared the post with their networks.
5 Lessons from the experience:
- Step out of the fear zone and try something. You’ll surprise yourself.
- Rejection is good. It helps you grow. It helps you keep pushing yourself.
- Critique, if you get any, is perfect. It means that someone cared enough to tell you why your work didn’t fit.
- Remember that a rejection does not mean that you’re bad. It just means that your writing wasn’t right for that publication, at that point in time.
- Surround yourself with friends who will help you through a rejection. That helps. Immeasurably so.
Keep writing. Keep pitching. Keep putting your work out there for the world to see. You may find yourself smiling more often.
I’ve only just begun to pitch my work for paid publications, so wish me luck and here’s hoping I can share something on that as well with you all soon.
*Disclosure: I e-mailed a pitch and my blog post to Huffington Post and am now on their new contributor platform, Athena. You can read a complete overview of what this means, over here.